Friday, October 30, 2009

Leavenworth Weddings, Choosing Location Part II

You need to be very up front with yourself and the wedding venue. If there is an idea for your wedding that is an absolute must, tell the venue. Find out if they allow you to do what it is that is so very important for your wedding day.

Keep in mind, if a wedding venue says they don’t allow something you were thinking of doing or having at your wedding or reception, ask if they can make an exception. If the venue says “no”, then no is the answer. Now it’s up to you, just how important is that something? If your wedding hinges on being able to do what you were told no to, then move to another venue. Do this BEFORE you book your wedding at the particular venue. Don’t agree to not doing that “something” that is so important and then try to convince the venue at a later time to allow you to do it. If you are told no, it won’t make a difference just because you decided to book at that location.

If it says no in the contract, no means no. If you didn’t read the contract, it’s your fault; not the wedding venue’s fault. Don’t take it out on the wedding venue. If that “something” is so important to you, then you should consider cancelling your wedding and moving it to another location. Be careful before doing this. First, you may loose a deposit; second, the new location may not be able to do as much for you as the first location. So, you have to ask yourself, how important is it to your wedding? Maybe the first location can do something that is similar that would work just fine.

This is were attitudes come into play. No means no. There have been a lot of brides that have booked at a location after being told no to “something”, later tried to convince the venue otherwise, have gotten mad because the venue didn’t give in, then take it out on the venue saying it’s the venue’s fault. Hence, bad comments (and lies) are posted all over the internet.


Tuesday, October 27, 2009

Wedding Meeting Appointments

As many of you know, Featherwinds Lodging in Leavenworth Upper Valley does Day Weddings, receptions, and Destination Weddings. All tours and meetings are by appointment only. We do this so that you are able to meet with our wedding coordinators, planners and event coordinators to answer all your questions and to view our facility. Appointments are made via email and phone.

We are currently working on a Wedding Meeting Form that you can fill out online and then submit. The form will be short but ask for basic information, guest count, wedding date, bride and grooms name, etc. This will help us be able to assist and guide you through the planning stages and incorporate Featherwinds capabilities with your dreams and desires.

As previously state, the Wedding Meeting Form will be short on required information but will also allow you to submit as much additional information you wish. If you have particular questions you can add them in the comment section. Your questions will be answered in an email confirming your appointment time and date.

If you prefer, you can still call to make an appointment.

We will post more information regarding the Wedding Meeting Form as soon as it is available.

Thank you.

Warm wishes,


Friday, October 23, 2009

Leavenworth Weddings, Choosing Location Part I

Choosing a wedding location can be very time consuming and confusing. Be sure to “shop” around.  It is important that you visit each location where you are interested in having your wedding. If the wedding venue has a website, view the website and try to get as much information as possible. If you saw something online that is not mentioned during your meeting, ask about it.

Talk with the wedding planner(s) – coordinator(s) regarding your wedding. You need to make sure the capabilities of the wedding location meet your needs. Take notes during each meeting; names, phone numbers, email addresses, etc. If you get confused or don’t understand something, ask for it to be explained.

You need to be comfortable with not only the wedding venue, but also the people you will be working with. Communication is very important. You need to be able to ask anything even if they already explained it. Ask! Better to ask a couple of times, then to assume you remember the answer. Open communication is a must. How is the contact to be made? Email? Telephone? Both?

Don’t take the word of one venue about another venue. See the venue yourself, talk to the venue yourself and ask the venue yourself. Don’t rely on another venue saying, “they don’t do this, they require that, etc.”, find out for yourself.



Monday, October 12, 2009

Weddings, Going Green

Recent wedding traditions have started to change. Weddings are “going green”. The concern for the environment does not stop at just fuel efficient vehicles, reducing the amount of electricity used or saving a tree. New wedding traditions are being started or re-shaped to fit the needs and desires of brides and grooms to be environmentally friendly.

Traditional throwing of rice: A new tradition is to throw bird seed. The seed that is left on the ground will feed the birds and not harm them as does rice. Left over bird seed is also bio-degradable more so than the rice. Another idea is to throw or cover the “escape” route of the newly weds with fresh (not silk) rose pedals. This is a very elegant look and the rose pedals are bio-degradable. Throwing rose pedals in front of the newly weds is recommended instead of throwing the pedals at the newly weds.

Traditional decorating the newly wed’s vehicle: Tying aluminum cans to the newly wed’s car is out. Recycle the cans, don’t litter. Instead decorate the car in recycled, bio-degradable tissue paper. This still creates a littering issue, but at least the paper is environmentally safe. Covering the windows with shaving cream, that’s out too. Use bio-degradable soap, it washes off easily and won’t harm the environment.

Traditional wedding party favors: Give seedling trees, you can order the trees online (Google “seedling trees”). There are several companies that sell seedling trees for about $1.50-$2.00 including shipping. You can even plant a seedling in a pot as part of your ceremony similar to the sand or candle lighting ceremony. Just remember to water the seedling growing it in the pot. For your one year anniversary, plant the tree outside at your home or in your community.

Remember, if you are having an outside wedding, use natural items such as fresh rose pedals (instead of a runner), hanging baskets with fresh flowers (instead of silk). If you are going to use silk flowers for a particular look (adding fall colors to a gazebo) make sure the silks are something you would want to use around your house for decorations. Garland leafs of fall colors are perfect to reuse for holiday decorations.

These are just a few ideas to make your wedding “green”.

Friday, October 09, 2009

Wedding Traditions

There are many wedding traditions; some stem from religious beliefs, superstitions, family desires and cultural influences. Many of these traditions are changing; either lost and forgotten (not liked or the “in thing”) or changing as our world and environment requires or needs.

One of these traditions is to be married during the month of June. While some bride and grooms still desire and hold this tradition, it seems to have faded away. Yes, we still do weddings in June, but over time we have seen a drastic change and now every month is just as popular as June. Fall weddings Sept. – Oct., winter weddings Nov. – March, spring weddings April – May, and of course summer weddings June – August.

It seems brides and grooms are choosing their wedding date according to: their favorite season, a significant or memorable date or a date that is convenient to friends and families to gather for the celebration.

There is nothing wrong with step out of tradition as far as when you get married, the theme of your wedding or how you dress for your wedding. After all, it’s your wedding and you are getting married.

Featherwinds Lodging, where memories are made and life is celebrated.

Warm wishes,


Wednesday, October 07, 2009

Rehearsal Dinners

There aren’t many do’s and don’ts for rehearsal dinners as far as planning is concerned. There are a lot of subjects that need to be addressed and how to handle them.

1. If you are wanting a small rehearsal dinner there are a couple of ways to do just that. Your rehearsal dinner can be for just immediate family. Immediate family would be the bride’s and groom’s parents and grandparents, the bride’s and groom’s brothers and sisters and their spouses.

Another way to do a small rehearsal dinner is to have family and wedding party. Again, this would include: grandparents, parents and the wedding party and spouses of the wedding party. If brothers and sisters are not part of the wedding party, you don’t have to include them, but out of respect, you should.

Aunts and Uncles do not count as immediate family and although they may want to be part of the rehearsal dinner, most will understand if they are not invited. If you are having a large rehearsal dinner, then Aunts and Uncles would be invited. But if you invite one, you need to invite them all.

Remember, no matter how you decide to do your rehearsal dinner, you need to invite the spouse of anyone you are inviting. Children of rehearsal dinner guests do not have to be invited and most guests would understand if their children are not invited. You may want to consider allowing infants depending on the age.

2. Foods are an important part of the rehearsal dinner. Try to compromise and cater foods that everyone will like. The entre does not have to be everyone’s favorite, but it should be something everyone will like.

3. Drinks are something to keep in mind also. Limit the amount of alcohol served. A glass or two of wine or beer is normally okay, but you don’t want to have an open bar if everyone is driving after the dinner. This is an added responsibility you are undertaking at a time when it is very busy in your life. The more alcohol served, the more stress will be added.

Weddings are not a time to be stressed, they are a time to enjoy and celebrate.

4. If you want to socialize and pre-celebrate do it after the rehearsal dinner. It is understandable you want to visit with all your guests (destination weddings and lodging) but it doesn’t have to be at the rehearsal dinner. Visit with family and friends after the rehearsal at a location where everyone can join in the fun. It doesn’t have to be formal, in can be very informal and relaxed.

5. Set a start and end time for the rehearsal dinner. This is the night before your wedding, you will need your sleep. The wedding day itself is a long and busy day. If you don’t have a start and end time for dinner, the night could grow rather long. If people want to continue to celebrate, go else where and continue the party. Once the party moves to a different location than where rehearsal dinner was at, the bride and groom are under no obligation to stay out late.

The last two ideas are a perfect way to handle a small rehearsal dinner and still mingle with family and friends that were not invited to the dinner. If cost is an issue, you have effectively found a solution; small rehearsal dinner and then a gathering after dinner for everyone to attend. This also gives people who may be tired from travel a way to politely excuse themselves to get a much needed nights sleep.